Aging Parents? Strategies to Remain Conflict-free

Ask the Experts by Sean Cleland

Q: My parents are getting older and I worry what will happen if/when my siblings and I must make decisions for them. Is there anything we can do ahead of time?

A: By 2030 there will be more Americans over the age of 65 than under the age of 16. As we age an increasing number of care concerns arise, such as the ability to live independently. Families should have a plan in place to handle these care concerns before they arise.

If you have parents in their mid-seventies or older, it is a good idea to hold a family meeting to discuss how they want their needs met during their later years and to make sure that each family members' role is agreed upon.

Without advanced planning, families can be caught off guard by a care crisis. In such cases prompt family coordination becomes vital. When families don't plan in advance and cannot coordinate their efforts, caring for a parent is often left to one sibling out of necessity or convenience, which is a recipe for conflict and resentment.

Planning in advance of a care crisis or after one develops can be challenging. The discussions can be emotional and require informed decision making. Often, family dynamics add to the difficulty. In both scenarios, an Elder Care Mediator can be invaluable.

Elder Care Mediators are experts at helping families plan for age-based concerns or handle an emerging care crisis. In a completely confidential setting, elder care mediators design and guide family discussions. They help families to make informed decisions by including professionals, such as care managers and elder law attorneys. The result is a workable and long-lasting solution that serves to decrease hostilities between family members.

Learn more about ways to plan ahead at the upcoming program "Aging Parents? Strategies to Remain Conflict-free"

Sean Cleland is a collaboratively trained attorney and mediator specializing in divorce and elder law disputes. His company, Cleland Collaborative Solutions, can be found on the web at www.clelandsolutions.com. He can be reached at 586-981-0990 and is a member of The Family Center's Association of Professionals and on the board of directors.

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Aging Parents? Strategies to Remain Conflict-free

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